Is the love or infatuation question such a big deal? A lot of people don't seem to think so. While you're sweating out a grim struggle with the question, you may be amazed to find that almost no one else even takes it - or you seriously. Many otherwise very smart people will just dismiss your problem as either funny, silly or hopeless.
Behind the "when it strikes you, you'll know it" idea is the assumption that your heart will somehow signal you when you've found real love. No one tells you how you'll know. They say, "You'll just know." Are they right? Can you depend on your heart?
Most young people think they're in love right now. If you're in a high school or college age, indeed any age - chances are better than even that you think you're in love this very minute.
But while most of these young people thought they were in love, they were at the same time not sure.
Youth are not sure how to distinguish a pseudo-love from the real thing. it seems clear that "romantic love" or romantic infatuation cannot be trusted. If you can't trust your heart, what then can you trust? What are you to do when you're caught up ina romance? Most of us need help to decide whether what we feel is actually love. we need a reasonably accurate, rational way to determine the difference between love and infatuation during the period of the romantic involvement itself.
Behind the "when it strikes you, you'll know it" idea is the assumption that your heart will somehow signal you when you've found real love. No one tells you how you'll know. They say, "You'll just know." Are they right? Can you depend on your heart?
Most young people think they're in love right now. If you're in a high school or college age, indeed any age - chances are better than even that you think you're in love this very minute.
But while most of these young people thought they were in love, they were at the same time not sure.
Youth are not sure how to distinguish a pseudo-love from the real thing. it seems clear that "romantic love" or romantic infatuation cannot be trusted. If you can't trust your heart, what then can you trust? What are you to do when you're caught up ina romance? Most of us need help to decide whether what we feel is actually love. we need a reasonably accurate, rational way to determine the difference between love and infatuation during the period of the romantic involvement itself.
well that would depend on how you would define your 'heart'. this is in the context of emotions. one thing that most people don't realize is that infatuation is by no means synonymous with love. it may be a sign but not at all the same.
ReplyDeletei've come to believe that love is an active decision. in other words a choice. much like how romans 5:8 defines: "while we were yet still sinners, Christ died for us..."
there you go God loved us actively, because he did not wait nor looked for potential for us to become lovable, nor to reciprocate that love. plain and simple Christ died for us thus fulfilling the work of redemption without waiting for an indication on our part to show signs of repentance.
though infatuation would be nice.